Spiraling Forward…
I was introduced to the forward spiral concept that has helped me a lot. When you set out on that path of learning something new you have a starting point and a goal point. It might be far out but it’s straight ahead and you can see the finish line so you get going. You might even gain some forward momentum. At some point the setbacks hit, not doing it perfectly, regressing, bad luck - something that makes it feel like you’re falling backwards. I like to envision the forward spiral and path of progress as the swirl on top of Hostess cupcakes. Think of the set backs as that first loop. You’re moving along, doing your best, getting better every day and then OH MY GOD you’re falling backwards. This is jarring. But that’s ok! Instead of going to the “I’ve lost it all” negative mind space, try instead thinking about that cupcake swirl. Eventually you WILL level off again and can keep moving. Even if you get hit with another loop. Even if you go for a few spins on the same loop before getting out of it. It’s ok. When you get out of a loop you can look back and see that you have still covered a lot of ground, you’re still moving forward and you can still keep going. You’re not where you started. This mindset is much more empowering. By accepting the journey as it is and yourself right where you’re at, in any journey and any time you can reduce the suffering along the way. And you don’t have to indulge with the shame monster. And let’s face it, that bitch sucks. Remember though, it’s a practice. Even just remembering the spiral takes practice. When you find shame or negative self talk come up trying to hijack your vibe just gently remind yourself about the spiral, that nothing has gone wrong here and this is part of the process. Keep on ‘ them cupcakes.
The Process.
Weekly musings about the creative process and thought management.